To be a feminist does not mean that women want to crush men. It is about wanting equality between men and women.
The feminist cause needs the men’s support. Men are allies in the recognition of disparity between men and women.
Each partner must give consent to a sexual activity: touching, kissing or any other gesture of a sexual nature. Each partner’s consent must be obvious, free, and informed. If these conditions are not met, it is sexual aggression.
Jealousy can be an attempt to possess and control the other partner.
To belittle friends and family is an attempt to isolate someone.
Economical violence manifests through behaviours and actions that prohibit someone to access their financial freedom. Once again, this type of violence can be used in an implicit or explicit way.
In no way, someone should do something against her will. Moreover, when we say “No”, our partner should understand and stop pressuring us. It doesn’t make me a bad person or a bad partner. At the contrary, I set my limits and I respect myself.
Women having trouble to leave their violent partner can give the impression that they are addicted to love. However, the ambivalence of these women is due to the cycle of violence, bringing women to wrongfully believe that they are responsible for the treatment they receive, and that they need to change their own behaviours to avoid domestic violence. Now, it is the aggressor who is responsible for the violence that makes women suffer. Violence is a learned and chosen behaviour, that is used as a control and domination medium. Violent behaviours are always unjustified. Provoked or not, no one deserves to receive violence.
Even after separation or divorce, violent men can still threaten, harass or physically attack their ex-partner. When the violent man has lost control of his spouse, the separation becomes a particularly crucial moment for the security of the woman. If the couple has children, they can be used by the partner to try to take control again. Therefore, at the moment of separation and after, women usually need a lot of support.
Men aren’t violent to their partner because they are using drugs or alcohol, or because they face stress. there is no substance or stressful situations that can make someone become violent against their will, especially if this violence only occurs at home with the wife. Although alcohol or drugs can alter inhibitions, and that stress can rise some tension, these factors cannot, and must not, be used as an excuse to disempower violent men.